My Boyfriend Cheating
In this article - “My Boyfriend Cheating”, we are going to talk about cheating boyfriends and why these men cheat even if the relationship is close to being perfect. Is it unhappiness? Is it the craving for variety? And, the biggest question is… is it the girl’s fault? Here’s a letter from a woman who’s currently dealing with the ‘my boyfriend cheating’ dilemma.
“I can’t stand my boyfriend cheating.” So click here for a solution.
Hi there, my name is Danielle and I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months now. Everything was fine and rosy until a couple of months ago when I finally realized my boyfriend cheating on me with a common friend. At first, I wasn’t able to accept the situation, and my mind recoiled at the thought of sharing my boyfriend with someone I am close to; but now, I can’t seem to do anything but go with the flow.
On one hand I can’t deal with my boyfriend cheating. On the other hand, I can’t let him go and I’ve even vowed to fight for his affection. He has owned up to his mistake; only, he doesn’t think it’s a mistake. The worst part is that my friend (the girl he’s sleeping with) acts nonchalant about the whole cheating incident by saying it’s just a one-time thing, but I have my doubts. This whole situation makes me feel like I’m the “other woman”.
My questions are: should I tolerate my boyfriend cheating? And, is there a way to make my boyfriend stop seeing my friend?
Here’s our reply to Danielle’s letter.
Hey, girl — men get bored of relationships for different reasons. Maybe your boyfriend has a tendency to give in to temptation, and with your friend so willing to let him have his way with her, he was not able to resist the temptation. I understand that you’re torn between friendship and love, and between letting go or, in your words, fighting for him.
However, even when you’re telling yourself these things, you somehow feel like you’re the victim, and I cannot blame you. I think the problem is that you don’t know who to believe. You’re told something by your boyfriend, and then told another thing by your friend. If you often feel there’s more to the story than what they’re revealing to you, you’re probably right.
Here’s my advice: if you’re fed up with the situation, you can be blunt with your boyfriend and give him an ultimatum, after you’ve explained that you’re not at all comfortable with what happened. Or, you can talk to your friend and make her promise never to communicate with you and your boyfriend again because you don’t want the cheating incident to happen again. It’s as simple as telling her “I cannot stand my boyfriend cheating with you again”.
Finally, I can safely say that the whole shenanigan was not your fault. Unless you deliberately left him alone with your friend for a time (they might have thought of it as your way of giving your blessing!), it’s not you. Your boyfriend simply has some sort of special connection with your friend, which is similar to his connection with you. He probably likes variety and he enjoys the fact that he’s sleeping with two women. This means that being with you and being with your friend too is part of his game.