Survive Break Up
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Survive Break Up Concluding with Constructive Reflection
When you’re done with the Introspection phase of learning how to survive break up, you’re ready to take on the next step: constructive reflection.
This step is all about your past relationship. Your objective must be to analyze the way you behaved during your relationship and how you handled the problems that came your way. This is the most painful part of letting go, but you need to get through this to survive break up issues and to be able to move on. Some people call it ‘learning from your mistakes’, while some simply call it ‘improvement’.
When you’re thinking back and reflecting on your memories, your emotional stability will play a big role. For this reason, you must complete the introspection phase first before you travel memory lane with mixed emotions. Most people think back on their old love affair before they’re ready, and this often leads to self destruction.
So how do you go through this phase successfully? Here is a key strategy for you to survive break up blues during the reflection stage.
Survive a breakup. Get There is Life After…
Treasure Your Memories
The first thing you need to do is to organize and store your memories, literally and figuratively. Buy the brightest pink box you can find and arrange your relationship mementos inside the box. These could be photos, love letters, souvenirs from places you visited, and even your ex’s clothes.
Some people will tell you that in order to survive break up, you have to get rid of everything that belongs to your ex, but I disagree. You see, deep inside you know that there were several instances during your relationship when you felt really happy, and burning everything means burning the good memories too.
If you still feel love for the other person, disregarding the happy memories will affect you negatively. Sure you want to “forget” your ex, but the truth is, you won’t be able to forget everything.
If you want to survive break up, do yourself a favor and simply store the memories of your love inside a sealed box; and place that box in a cool dry place where it won’t be destroyed by anyone (even you). Of course, no one will judge you if you cry or bawl like a baby while you’re sorting your ex’s stuff. You must wave goodbye to each memory as you’re putting it away because the real secret to survive break up is to gain closure; and doing this will give you the closure that you want.
There’s also a practical reason why you should keep your ex’s stuff stored; he or she might come back for them.
Burning his precious stuff shows childishness and disrespect for another person’s property. When you’ve cleared your head enough, you will realize the truth in this more clearly. In the end, your ex is still another person, and you must at least grant him the respect you would give to any human being. Being mature about this issue is one of the best things you can do to survive break up.