Cheating - Overcoming Blind Trust: Quest for Cheating Truth

Even hinting at the possibility of infidelity in a relationship has some partners reaching for the phone, looking for a private investigator or a rabid divorce lawyer should their fears be proven right. But in the midst of finding all you can to prove guilt on your partner’s behalf, what happens when your suspicions are no more than that? What happens if your partner really isn’t guilty?

This is a scenario that plays in the minds of almost every partner when they first suspect an affair, and this is partly because they don’t want to believe it’s true. The person they have vowed love and honor to is not the person they imagined would have the motivation to seek fulfilment outside the marriage. But the statistics tell us otherwise…

So who do we believe? The statistics or our partners?

Investigating the possibility of an affair puts an end to the illusion of the fairytale marriage, where there is complete trust and unfaltering devotion to one’s partner. But the statistics tell us that this blind trust and devotion is what cheaters bank on when they sleep with others, relying on the fact that blind trust means they will never be questioned.

It is estimated by some experts in the field that 53% of all people will have one or more affairs during their lifetime.

The gut instinct is the most powerful indicator of a cheating lover. According to one study, 85% of women who feel their lover is cheating are correct. Simiilarly, 50% of men who feel their lover is cheating are correct. It may not seem obvious, but if you suspect something is not right, at the very least it is worth investigating.

If it turns out you are wrong, then there are still issues in your marriage that need to be addressed. Your first inclination to look for proof is indicative that you felt something was not right in your marriage. even if your hunch was wrong, the reason you felt that feeling was because there is an issue that needs examining. Suspicions, issues, marital crises, these are all indicators that something in your marriage needs to change. It is up to you to decide whether you have the strength to acknowledge your feelings and respond to this change and recreate the loving marriage that once existed. You have a duty to find out the truth.

For a shortcut to the truth, check out How to Catch a Cheating Spouse:


Till next time,

Tom Tyler